BDSM Slave Training Minicourse

BDSM Slave Training Minicourse


The Question Of Punishment

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When you're actively looking to be trained as a slave as a part of
your life, you need to be wary of 'experts' that speak of
punishment as the ultimate way to control a slave and to have them
do what ever is asked of them. Punishment has many other uses in
your slave training life that you will want to consider.  As a slave
it is important that you consider this.


The problem with punishment and slave training is that it has been
glamorized too often in the media and in porn sites. It seems like
all you need to do is whip someone a little bit and they become
complacent and obedient. Of course, this would be a nice thing for
a Dominant and it would certainly make their lives easier, but this
is not always the case.


In fact, in many situations, the use of punishment backfires in
terms of how it is supposed to help a slave training situation.
While it is meant to create obedience, it often inspires
disobedience and the idea of 'topping from the bottom.' Though this
is more often the case with beginning Dominants and experienced
Subs; that does not mean that punishment doesn't need to be
something to think about when beginning a new BDSM relationship.


The fact of the matter is that many Subs like punishment. A lot.
They want to be whipped, flogged, and degraded because it turns
them on and makes them feel pleasure. While there's nothing
inherently wrong with this reaction, the idea of a slave and Master
relationship is one in which the Master determines how the slave is
feeling at any given time. When the slave does something wrong,
they should be upset that they have failed their Master, not happy
to be receiving punishment.


Some subs will go so far as to disobey on purpose in order to
receive punishments. This is not going to help the slave training
process and can become frustrating for a Dominant that is new to
their position or who simply doesn't have the experience to come up
with other ways of controlling their slave.


What you might want to do as a submissive is to make sure you are
talking to your Dominant before going into a more formal
relationship.  Talk to them about what turns both of you on and
express yourself about what makes you feel more subservient. Most
subs are quite clear about these reactions in themselves. Subs know
when they are masochistic and when verbal degradation can reduce
them to being subservient. Talking ahead of time is the best way to
start figuring out what is going to work for your relationship.


But the real 'cure' for punishments that go awry is to stop
whatever is not working immediately. Trying something over and over
and expecting different results is the definition of insanity - and
not a good way to have a successful slave training situation. Make
sure as a sub that you let your Dominant know when something is not
placing you within the subservient mindset.


What you need to realize is the not all punishments a Dominant gives
are going to be construed as punishments. Many slaves will
often enjoy the attention that punishment is giving them and will
willfully disobey in order to receive that attention again and again.


To stop this from happening, you and your Dominant need to find out
what is going to work as a punishment for you as the slave -
humiliation, degradation, verbal humiliation, etc. Each slave is
different, but there will be one thing that the slave in question
will not want to do, so it will be seen as an actual punishment to
you - and something that you will try to avoid in the future with
the appropriate behavior the Dominant have provided for them.